I’ve heard you can never have too much love but I’m really starting to wonder!!

Elijah is driving me nuts when it comes to Kayleigh! I don’t know if it’s really a jealous factor or what but he is constantly at her. If I feed her he’s over messing with her, rubbing her head, touching her hands and feet, talking to her — fine, but she really needs to concentrate when eating and he distracts her. If she’s in bed and I’m hoping she’ll sleep, he’s over there in her face talking or trying to play peek-a-boo or something of the like. If she’s in the bouncy seat, he’s right there in her face, changing buttons and playing with the toys, too. But here’s the kicker, when I tell him to leave her alone or get out of her face his response is always: “BUT I LOVE HER!!”

I have to say that I know he loves her but, dang, get out of her face sometimes. I can see sometimes that he does stress her out because he’s at it all the time. I tell him that loving her doesn’t mean you have to be talking to her, or touching her, or whatever all the freaking time. But he just keeps saying, “but I love her!”

The other day, for example. She was asleep so I was taking the opportunity to grab a shower. I guess this was Monday, so I was in a time crunch because we had a doctor’s appointment. I had to call Elijah into the bathroom to ask him why the heck there was a large towel in the middle of the tub just soaked and when I opened the door and looked out, he was standing over her pack n play with the big light on in the living room, talking or something to her. Next thing I know? She’s crying. If she’s asleep and she stirs at all, he’s gotta be right there. If she wasn’t fully awake, she sure is after he gets to her.

It’s driving me nuts. I might be inclined to think that it was totally a jealousy thing but it’s not just when I’m holding her. I feel bad hissing at him when she’s sleeping to get away from her but he’s gotta learn the appropriate times to be in her face and not. I don’t want him to get this idea about her that she’s the privileged child and is untouchable so I am trying not to always get after him but if she’s sleeping, she needs to sleep and he needs to leave her alone, same with eating or if he’s stressing her out.

He also just plain doesn’t understand how to be quiet. We tell him to whisper but even his whisper is so loud, even equivalent to a raised voice. It also doesn’t help that he is fascinated with her toys and thinks he has to be the one to play with them. (I think I’ve FINALLY broken him of sitting in the bouncy seat!)

In time it will get better, she’ll get older and he won’t be so fascinated with her, but in the meantime, talk about frustration!!